Top Tips for more Pleasurable Bottoming

The San Francisco AIDS Foundation always comes up with the most clear, frank, safe and understandable guides for gay sex. This article with their Douchie mascot is no exception.

Jason Wong, PT, DPT and founder of Conquer Posture, opens with: “For all of you out there who have never bottomed because you thought your partner’s penis was “too big,” or that anal sex was too painful with any partner, or that “I just can’t do it”—there’s something you should know.”

“Bottoming can (and should) feel amazing—and there’s a lot you can do to improve your experience. Here’s what to know about your physical ability, how to coordinate your mind and your body, how to prepare for sex, and more.”

Dr. Wong follows with 7 true/false quiz questions for you about the way your butt works. For example, #4: My anal passage is too small to bottom.

THE ANATOMY OF PLEASURE

Dr. Wong busts the myth of being “too small” by breaking down how your anatomy is actually engineered. The anal canal is surrounded by two distinct muscular rings: the external sphincter, which you can voluntarily control, and the internal sphincter, which operates automatically on smooth muscle. Pain doesn’t mean you’re built incorrectly; it usually just signals that the pelvic floor is gripping rather than releasing. Because the rectum sits at a natural 90-degree kink known as the anorectal angle—a bend designed to hold back stool—penetration requires deliberate muscle relaxation to allow the passage to straighten out.

DESENSITIZATION AND THE MIND-BODY RESET

For guys whose nerve endings go into instant defense mode when touched down there, Dr. Wong recommends starting with basic desensitization work. If light touching feels ticklish, jarring, or overwhelming, starting with firm, broad, flat-handed pressure across the area helps calm hyperactive sensory nerves before transitioning into gentler touch. Taking the time to explore sensations solo or during extended foreplay disarms the body’s natural impulse to lock up.

THE GOLDEN RULE: PUSH OUT AS HE ENTERS

The most transformative mechanical advice from a physical therapy perspective is counterintuitive: bear down as your top pushes in. When you gently bear down through your pelvis without clamping the external sphincter, you release the pelvic floor sling and naturally align that 90-degree rectal angle into a smooth, linear path. This dynamic elongation dramatically reduces internal resistance, making entry smooth even with thicker partners. Once comfortable, that same pelvic floor awareness lets you actively rhythm, pulse, and grip around your partner, transforming bottoming from a passive act into an active physical art.

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