Bottom Basics 101 has other article links that plunge deeper, but this is a great place to start if you want a gay sex bottom quick reference guide
If you are a newbie and never bottomed before, this guide by Pride is one of the best simple readings out there. “Bottom Basics 101” has other article links that plunge deeper, but this is a great place to start.
Even the BB Team probably would’ve missed one or two of these tips if we were putting a guide together ourselves. Luckily writer Zachary Zane is the expert! He’s updated his list from a few years ago, and increased it from 10 to 14.
If you’re new to being on the receiving end of anal sex, the good news is, it only hurts if you don’t know what you’re doing.
On the flip side, if you’ve never done it before, it’s likely that you have no idea what’s going on down there. Being penetrated is a completely new bodily sensation that takes time and practice.
If you’re new to anal sex, let me be honest with you: Bottoming can hurt.
Zane provides “14 tips that are sure to help you find all the joys bottoming can give.” Some are practical, common sense tips we wouldn’t think of. Other tips provide a better understanding of what’s going on. Here are a few of the best:
Cut Your Fingernails
Are they cut now? Good. Now cut them shorter and file the jagged edges. You will want finger yourself to loosen up, and long nails could scratch you. Your nails can’t be too short.”
Fight the Urge to Clench
Your natural response will be to clench. You need to fight this urge, but you don’t need to push out either; you just need to relax. Your body will naturally loosen up with repeated penetration.
It Can Feel Like You’re Pooping
The only other experience you’ve had with your anus thus far in life is pooping. So it’s no surprise that, in the beginning, it often feels like you’re pooping (which is also why you feel a natural urge to clench). The association with pooping will go away with repeated experience.
Find An Understanding Top
If you’ve never bottomed before, it can be intimidating. Some men may take advantage of you, and others may fantasize over being your first. Regardless, you should feel comfortable during your experimentation. If you’re not ready for the real deal, keep practicing until you are. Otherwise, find a top who actually knows how to communicate and let it grow from there (no pun intended.)
Discover the other ten tips even if you’re more experienced. You’ll probably learn something new!