There's a lot more to topping than putting your penis or dildo in someone's anus and going to town
One of the BB Team’s favorite sex expert writers is Zachary Zane. He’s pretty much on point with this Beginner’s Guide to Topping in Men’s Health. Zane starts off with, “Only some of us were lucky enough to get medically accurate sex education in school, and even if we did, odds are, it didn’t cover how queer men have sex.” The odds against us are pretty steep, so we’re sure there are loads of questions about topping and bottoming.
Zane also notes, “For many queer men, being a top or bottom is also part of their identity; it’s why you’ll hear guys say, ‘I’m a top’ instead of ‘I prefer the top position.'”
Warming up your partner. This step is uber important, and Zane gets great quotes from several renown sex education experts in the field such as Dr. Evan Goldstein of Bespoke Surgical, Bobby Box, and Dr. Carlton Thomas, a board-certified gastroenterologist who trained at the Mayo Clinic. Dr. Thomas is famous on Instagram @doctorcarlton for his Butt Clock Technique. It’s a fingering technique called the “butt clock” that will loosen the hole right up, applying pressure on the internal sphincter at 3, 9, 12 and 6 o’clock.
How to enter your partner you ask? Basically whatever way the bottom prefers. Communication is key. Dr. Goldstein says, “Despite what you see in porn, which almost always features the top being in full control when starting out, it’s essential that you relinquish control to your bottom.” Good to know!
It’s all covered in the article, from finding the right rhythm and speed, to the best positions for anal sex, to how (and where) to finish, to aftercare. It will definitely be hard to top this piece.
Ed. Note: We’re not sure why Men’s Health still links gay and queer focused articles under “sex-women.” The writing and images are clear. Maybe one day we’ll get our own link section!
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Sunday August 7, 2022