Why Straight Men Fuck Other Men

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The majority of men I interviewed were primarily attracted to women, not men. So why would they have sex with other men?

In his book, Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural AmericaUniversity of British Columbia assistant professor of sociology Tony Silva investigates why some men who identify as straight have sex with other men. The book is published by NYU Press and also available on Amazon.

Throwing caution to the wind, Dr. Silva marched into white rural America and somehow found his research subjects: 60 men who have sex with men (MSM) who identify as straight. Um, ok, the BB Team is pretty sure that most any gay boy coming from the rural cornfield towns of Nebraska or ranches of Wyoming would claim the same while living there? If only to keep from getting beat up or ostracized?

Dr. Silva mentions that, “It involves two related but separate issues: first, why men identify as straight if they have sex with other men, and second, why straight men would have sex with other men in the first place.”

He also found that, “The majority of men I interviewed were primarily attracted to women, not men. So why would they have sex with other men?”

Dr. Silva’s research uncovered one big reason: Skirting around cheating. Tom, a 59-year-old from Washington, explained: “I kind of think of it as, I’m married to a nun.” He continued: “For me, being romantic and emotional is more cheating than just having sex.” And Ryan, a 60-year-old from Illinois, felt similarly. He said: “Even when I have an encounter now, I’m not cheating on her. I wouldn’t give up her for that.”

So, while adulterous extramarital sex with women would be terrible for their marriages, extramarital sex with men was not as much of an issue. “Most men had not told their wives about their extramarital sex, however.”

In Silva’s extensive interviews with adult men living in conservative, rural communities, we observe the messy paradox of their lives as they attempt to reconcile their same-sex behavior with a straight identity. You will be amazed by their justifications.

RITCH C. SAVIN-WILLIAMS, AUTHOR OF MOSTLY STRAIGHT: SEXUAL FLUIDITY AMONG MEN

Is there a difference between homosexual and gay? Do you think the MSM are really heterosexual, or in the closet, or in deep denial? Is sex with men irrelevant to their identity? In Dr. Silva’s Queer submission, find out more about his research, and the interesting interviews he had with MSM in white rural America.

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Cover image courtesy of Tony Silva | NYU Press

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PhD, Associate Professor of Sociology, University of British Columbia, research focuses on gender, sexuality, rural sociology and qual/quan methods

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