Why Going Bareback was the Best Sex Decision

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I may be on Truvada but if you think I’m a whore that’s your issue, not mine.

With remarkable candor, author David Toussaint hits the mark with his personal story of deciding to go bareback, and it was “the best sex decision I ever made.” PrEP changed everything. Adding on our fingers, we assume he was born in 1964, and gay men of his generation and a bit older were hit by the devastation of AIDS. His story in HuffPost is definately relatable.

“The last time a man came inside of me I was 17 years old. Todd was 19. We were in the middle of a San Francisco f*** fest that started on a nude beach and ended up with coffee and more flipping in his apartment near the Castro. The year was 1981, and within a year the memory of our evening terrorized me like knives falling from the ceiling.”

“By 1985 Todd was dead; by 1988, the year I took my first HIV test, half of my friends and lovers had died. I’d moved to New York, and had been inexplicably spared. I started using condoms religiously after my last night with Todd (even in serious, committed relationships), a practice I continued until two years ago.”

“I’m lucky to have high testosterone levels, but even in my twenties the rubber was often a boner kill, and there have been so many times partners and I settled for oral sex or jerking off. The last time I put a condom on, in the fall, at his rightful insistence, the mood vanished faster than Trump’s brain at a science fair.”

On being judgmental: “Your sex life is your business: As for me, I don’t PNP, I avoid ‘Pump N Dumps’ because I find them unfulfilling and a bit depressing, and I may be on Truvada but if you think I’m a whore that’s your issue, not mine.”

 

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